COURSE TITLE: SEX
EDUCATION 1
INTRODUCTION
Sex is God’s
wonderful creation for the pleasure of the man and his wife. When practiced
within the confines of God’s will, sex can only lead to more joy and peace in
the marriage.
1. Purposes of Sex
The
major purpose of sexual intercourse is to celebrate the oneness of a man and
his wife – 1Col 6:16, Gen 2:24 other purposes are
(a)
derivation of pleasure – sex is very
pleasurable
(b)
procreation – giving birth to children
(c)
a way of staying close together – the
sexual life of a couple can serve as a thermometer of their relationship and
love
(d)
sex is a way of expressing your love
to your spouse
(e)
sex is also a way of calming down
frayed naves
2. Differences
in the Man and his Wife
(a) The physiology (make up) – the two are created
with distinctive features extremely and internally.
The
external features of the woman makes her more attractive to the man while the
internal feature influences her mood and feelings
(b) The emotions – both pertness react
differently to the same emotional situation. While a man may not perform well
during intercourse because of anxiety, a woman may be uninterested if she is
offended.
(c) the sex organs- the main sex organs are the
pains of the man and the vagina of the woman. However there are other erotic
parts of the body that are very sensitive to stimulation.
(d) Sexual response – quite different in both
pertness. The man responds slowly to romance and the sexual act.
3. WHAT SEX
MANS TO THE MAN
Sex
is the oil that lubricates the smooth running of the couple’s engine of unity.
However it means different things to the couple. Let’s consider the man
(a)
it satisfies his sex drive – by
nature, man has stronger sex drive and this influences his sexual behaviorur as
well as his personality.
(b)
It fulfils his manhood – a man has a
strong ego and somehow his sex drive is linked to his ego
(c)
It enhances his love for his wife- she
is the object of his satisfying experience
(d)
It reduces friction in the home – a
sexually satisfied man is usually a contented man
WHAT SEX MANS TO THE WOMAN
(a)
it fulfils her womanhood – if she
considers herself unsuccessful in bed, she will have a difficult time accepting
her total womanhood
(b)
it reassures her of her husband’s
love- she needs to know that her husband needs her and only in sexual union can
she have the reassurance or his love
(c)
it satisfies her sex drive – she may
not readily fantasize about sex but she has capacity to remember exciting
romantic experiences which will increase her sex drive.
(d)
It relaxes her nervous system – the
female nervous system is intrinsically tied to the reproductive organs. An
enjoyable sexual adventure contributes a much needed relaxant to her nervous
system
4. HOW OFTEN
SHOULD SEX BE HAD
The couple are free to have it as often as it pleases
them as long as they are both comfortable with the frequency.
5. HOW MUCH
TIME NEEDED
Sex could be done
within two to eight minutes this amount of time may satisfy the man but not
enough to give the woman satisfaction. Good sex requires time.
6. THE TURN
ONS
(a) Be an exciting partner – humorous, tender,
tolerant
(b) be your partner’s playmate – stimulate the
erotic parts of the body
(c) maintain an attractive look always
(d) choose different times, places and styles
for sex
(e) make each sexual experience memorable to be
longed for
THE TURN –OFFS
(a)
nagging – aggressive and quarrelsome
attitude
(b)
bad timing – asking fro sex when busy,
tired or worried
(c)
rough handling during sex – inappropriate
grabbing and squeezing of breasts etc
(d)
undue compliments of opposite sex
other than one’s partner
(e)
uncaring attitude and lack of concern
for spouse
(f)
bad body odur from any part of the
body
(g)
failure to settle quarrels or
misunderstanding
THE SATISFYING SEX
1.
Good, satisfying sex demands planning.
Since sex is of the mind, begin with concerning how it would be
2.
Create an alluring environment that
will readily turn you on eg soft lights, soft music, romantic perfumes etc
3.
Spend time during foreplay.
Explore each other’s body extensively to
arouses all the passions. Kissing, petting, caressing, necking of erogenous
areas will stimulate your partner and ignite optimal enjoyment.
4.
The entry stage of the act should be
done gently but progressively. Do not be in a hurry to thrust in out.
5.
strive for mutual orgasm. The man
should ensure he does not ejaculate before his wife reaches organism in order
to ensure collective satisfaction.
For maximum
enjoyment, it is important that the man follows the wife’s direction during
love making
Conclusion
Sexual
intercourse is a special gift from God for the celebration of oneness between a
man and his wife.
The denial of sex to your spouse could
bring disaffection, jeopardize your relationship and open you up to satanic
temptations.
Let your love making sessions be an
experience to be longed for continually.