INTRODUCTION: In a nutshell, self-development is revolved around improvement and innovation of our various lives in a platform that is plaudits-awarding. In Webster’s Dictionary, it is effort towards self-fulfillment, either through formal study programs or on one’s own. Further in the American Heritage Dictionary it is improvement of one’s capabilities or potentials.
1. SKILLS/TALENTS DEVELOPMENT
Picture someone you idolize for his skills/talents; say; Messi, C. Ronado, Chimamanda Achebe, Obama to mention but few you probably wish had been born with his endowment, right? Now let me tell you that Yes! You were!
“we are often taught that talent begins with genetic gifts- that the talented are able to effortlessly perform feats the rest of us can only dream about; (like Messi) this is false. Talent begins with brief, powerful encounters that spark motivation by linking your identity to a high performing person or group. This is called ignition, and it consists of a tiny, world-shifting thought lighting up your unconscious mind:
We could be them”____ DANIEL COYLE
Daniel Coyle in his book, the little Book of Talent. A cool book filled with 52 easy, proven methods to improve almost any skills. Limiting ourselves to practice motions provides little or no results. The key is to make sure you apply REPS gauge method.
R- Reaching and Repeating
S- Strong, speedy feedback
REACHING AND PEPEATING: Practice should require you to operate at the edge of your abilities; in short, you have to consistently reach out for and constantly repeat purposefully to succeed. For instance, the more you study a particular topic (repeatedly) the more you learn and know it.
ENGAGEMENT: Practice must command your attention and make you feel emotionally invested in striving for a goal. For instance, you are trying to perfect your slide transition for a presentation. Should you run through the presentation over ten times? No! Running through it ten times or more in a row will feel like death: trying to be perfect three times in a row turns the exercise into a game you care about.
Make sure the outcome of every practice session is something you care about. You’ll try well enough and be more engaged, and you’ll improve more rapidly.
PURPOSEFULNESS: Practice must directly connect to the skill you want to build.
For instance, you feel nervous and intimidated when you have to speak to a group. Should you rehearse at home alone? No! Try speaking to small groups of people in less formal settings, like in a meeting.
STRONG, SPEEDY FEEDBACK: practice must provide an immediate and consistent flow of accurate information about performance. E.g. you’re studying for a certification exam .You purchased a sample test guide. Should you Take a complete test and wait until the next day to see how you did? No! Finish a section and immediately grade your answers to see where you went wrong and right.
HABIT/SELF-INDULGENCE AND SOLUTION
Self indulgence is a habit to overcome in order to actualize self development. Today, we see an epidemic of obsession with food, drink, cigarette, and womanizing, as it’s the case with the youths. A person indulges himself by taking unrestrained pleasure in his pursuit of enjoyment and showing undue favor to his desires and feelings. In this, we pamper, humor, and spoil ourselves. The power of appetite is a great enticement to self-indulgence. Nevertheless, the effects of self-indulgence come in form of poverty, spiritual emptiness and finally death.
SCRIPTURAL SOLUTION TO SELF-INDULGENCE
Adopt a correct view of God. It is useful we memorize the biblical fact that God is Love (we are Love Family). You do not stuff yourself with whatever you crave for, or can get your hands on, for he promised to provide us with our needs __(Jeremiah 29:11)
Further, he is able to do for us exceedingly & above all we can never think of according to his power at work in us.
TACTICAL SOLUTION TO SELF-INDULGENCE
On our own, we can outdo our desires and our undying appetite for self pleasure. Sustainability of our plans not to indulge should be long and purposefully. If one can map out the times of his indulging period and busy it with some work, in due time he shall outsmart the spirit of self-indulgence
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, fabulous, and talented. Actually, who are you not to be? You were born to make and manifest the glory of God that is within us and as you let our own light shine, you unconsciously give other people permission to do the same”.